Calming Strategies
What to do before overload, during it, and in the hour afterwards.
Three moments, three approaches
Most calming advice fails because it targets the wrong moment. Before overload, reduce load: fewer demands, predictable structure, sensory breaks. During, stop talking, reduce input, keep everyone safe and wait. After, allow long recovery and only then review what happened. Deep pressure, movement, dim light and silence help far more than reasoning while dysregulated.
Key benefits
Before
Lower the load early.
During
Fewer words, less input.
After
Long recovery, no lecture.
Track
Spot the triggers.
What's included
- Calm thermometer self-report.
- Guided breathing and audio.
- Sensory activity library.
- Break and help AAC cards.
- Mood and trigger logging.
- Calm corner setup guide.
- Printable supports.
- Free core tools.
Frequently asked questions
Why does talking make it worse?+
Language processing collapses under overload.
Does deep pressure help?+
For many children, yes — try weighted or firm hugs if welcomed.
How long is recovery?+
Often an hour or more; plan for it.
Should we discuss it after?+
Later, briefly, when fully regulated.
Can an app help?+
Yes — tracking reveals the pattern before the crisis.